Trying to control people and situations in the outside world is like trying to tell your heart when and when not to beat or your intestine what to do. You’ll only end up in mad frustration. You see, we were taught that there is a difference between the activities outside our bodies and inside our bodies. That teaching is so wrong, it’s amazes me how powerful illusions are. It’s no wonder aliens who don’t have vested interest in us observe us in puzzled amazement. Thank God the strength of the illusion lies in not seeing it. Once you see it, it’s over. You see the illusion by realizing there is nothing there to see.
You have control over two things only. Your thoughts and your feelings (not emotions).
You see, the control over thought is limited and all limitations are illusions. So although you have no control of thoughts (since it doesn’t really exist), there is an illusion that you do and this illusion works brilliantly. You can decide to think happy thoughts, not to get angry, take care of the gardening later, etc. The limitation of thoughts are what we see in everyday life and that is why identification with any thought at all eventually lead to suffering. You are not a limited Being.
Now, the control over feeling is perfect and there are no limitations. But look at this, can you make yourself genuinely feel like you won $1,000,000 and make this feeling so real that it satisfies you completely without any physical representation of the money? You could try yes? You don’t know how genuine that can be yes? The point is this, although, feelings are limitless, identification with thoughts will stop you from expressing the limitlessness of Self. This means if you want more control you want over feelings, the less self or ego you must become. The more self-less you become, the more No One is there to control Feelings.
Earlier, I said you have control over two things only. Now, if you have understood, you’ll realize you have control over nothing. If you truly understand, you can become free from the shackles of false thinking, enter into the Kingdom of God, which is a kingdom of Feelings and enjoy the limitlessness of right thinking, which is God’s own thought processes.
You are blessed.